{August 10, 2011}   I want a love like theirs

today (August 10,2011) marks 50+ years that my great-grandparents have been together. I hate that I can’t remember how many years exactly but I can tell you that they’ll be hitting the 60 year mark sooner than later though

Wesley and Grace Calhoun are their names

the movie The Notebook is a bit similar to the love my great-grandparents have for each other in that the last name of the couple in the movie is Calhoun (just like my great-grandparents), their love endured a lot (just like my g-grandparents) and the woman battled Alzheimer’s disease (so does my g-grandma).  I have no plans on seeing The Notebook though b/c it’s too similar to them. My mama has seen it and said watching it was like being told stories of the lives of my g-grandparents

My grandma Grace has had Alzheimer’s since Dec. of 1999 and has been in a nursing home since March 2008 (she actually went in on my birthday which made me feel some kind of way that year)

I don’t have any recent pictures of them together b/c I didn’t have a digital camera back then. I only have separates now

celebrating the birthday of my favorite 87 year old

kissing him

I’d prefer not to put a picture of her on here b/c I don’t like taking pictures of what Alzheimer’s disease has done to her physical state

I hate that this disease has morphed the lady who used to make me re-wash the dishes if I left them in the rack too long into a woman who no longer recognizes me.  The woman who used to call me Kissing Kate b/c I was always kissing her, the woman who enjoyed watching me cheer when she was in town. In the early stages she’d hear my voice and turn her head in the direction and acknowledge me that way.  My great-grandfather bought her this little talking cheerleader. If you press her tummy she cheers “we’re numb. 1, we can’t be numb. 2 b/c we’re gonna beat the whoopsie out of you” and he’d play it for her and she’d mumble my name.  When she could she’d squeeze the doll’s tummy and it was a representation of me.  She still has the doll but she’s no longer able to squeeze it let alone hold it in her hand.

I also hate what this disease has done to her husband’s soul, mind, spirit, etc. It’s heartbreaking to watch him learn to live without his life’s partner. He still loves her dearly, he will be the first to tell you that even though she’s in a nursing home he still has a wife. He still wears his ring and has a picture of them from the olden days on a chain worn around his neck.

It’s heartbreaking to watch him visit her and she  not even know that he’s there. that right there makes me cry b/c I know that it’s not her fault that she no longer knows him.  She’s just existing these days and it kills me to use the word “existing” instead of living but that’s the harsh reality we as a family are facing.

My g-grandfather has forgotten the actual date of his anniversary and how long he’s been married but he’ll never forget that he has a wife. and of course, she doesn’t remember. Back when he could remember we’d take a cake down to the nursing home and he’d celebrate with her and the nurses who take care of her.

I want a love like theirs one day. For them it REALLY is “til death do us part”


I got on Twitter during the afternoon the other day and ran right into what I called “rant hour”. These were positive rants though.

One was coming from a high school friend of mine (@tacobellshawty).  If you follow her and are NOT up to date on what’s going on in the world of politics her rant could’ve made you feel like shit. And if it did then her purpose for going in was served.

I know she was stepping on a few toes so I’m SURE there were people in her mentions defending their reasons behind not being into politics/not knowing what’s going on

I don’t have one of those fancy phones that some people use to screencap photos of dumb, funny, grammatically incorrect tweets so I favorited a lot of hers and my friends “copy and paste” will help me put them here for you to see.

*At least one of these tweets made me feel bad (not like shit, I just felt bad after seeing it) but my pride won’t let me fess up about which one it was*

Here they are:

All ur grandparents with ss and fixed income are not protected under Boehen’s plan.

During the time of her rant the POTUS (president of the United States for those of you who didn’t know) was tweeting the twitter handles of the Republican reps for each state.  No, wait, the fact that our POTUS was doing this caused her rant, I’m sorry.

His tweets about the reps in Georgia:

Live in GA? Have a Republican representative? Tweet them and ask them to support a bipartisan compromise to deficit reduction.

Georgia Republican reps on Twitter:@JackKingston(GA-1), @RepWestmoreland (GA-3), @RepTomPrice (GA-6), @AustinScottGA08 (GA-08) #compromise

After this she tweeted each of them individually to let them know that she’s a Ga voter and that she wanted them to support a bipartisan compromise to deficit reduction

Y’all not caring about what’s going on proves that we as young ppl and black ppl are still behind…rap and sports isn’t life

Football filled my timeline yesterday and 90% of you have no idea who your state senators are….that’s sad and ignorant <~ I THINK this was the first tweet of the rant

Y’all talkin bout snap backs, Jordans, an hoes! Fux that shyt!!! Thats not going to secure ur future.

Lower ur head in shame if u can’t name one of your house representatives but know everything about mike vick <~ she actually had a follower admit that this was true for them

Not knowing who your senators are is a sign of stupidity and ignorance and u will always be inferior

Out of all the ppl I follow which is 284 ppl only 15 of y’all follow @barackobama!!! ARE U FUXING SERIOUS! U GUYS ARE PEASANTS!! <~ I am one of those 15 people


Why wouldn’t u want to follow the leader of ur country RT @stella_maris22 what if you know what’s going on but don’t want to follow him? <~ learning that a LOT of people feel this way

This next tweet is in response to a chick saying that not caring about politics doesn’t make her ignorant or stupid

Not being into politics and not knowing what’s going on is the most ignorant statement u can make. U pay taxes!!!!!!

He is still THE LEADER!!!! u still live in this country! RT @stella_maris22 he’s the elected leader but not the one I wanted <~ this made me wonder if this girl actually voted

When u have the power to vote, u have the power to control!!! EXERCISE YOUR POWER!

No one is going to care about u, if u dont care about urself!!!!!!! Not being into politics is not caring about urself.

We as a society are going to get manipulated and bamboozled everyday if u let someone do it. STAND UP!

the electoral college elects the president…. the house of representatives and senators hold the power!! CHECKS N BALANCES!

If the president held the power do u really think these issues would be going on…Barack is fighting for us!!! do u know his policies? 


Y’all hear somebody say Barack ain’t shyt and dick ride it..this man saved the us auto industry..gave ppl insurance until they 26

everybody saying I don’t like Barack, I don’t like politics can’t name 1 policy he is trying to accomplish!! GUESS WHAT!! THEY ALL BENEFIT US!

Barack reformed credit cards, so y’all won’t get bamboozled by these companies, but u don’t care about politics

Barack gave u the ability to be on ur parents’ insurance until u are 26, but u don’t care about politics. How? <~ I’m currently unemployed which equals no insurance and I took advantage of this policy so thank you Pres. O. He’s the reason I got a new eye exam, glasses and contacts

I love how she tweets about him as if they’re old friends

He can’t stick to what he says if he doesn’t have support in the house!! CHECKS N BALANCES IS REAL PPL!! HE CANT DO SHYT WITHOUT UR SAY SO!!

YOUR SAY SO= UR LOCAL GOV’T OFFICIALS THAT SUPPORT HIS POLICIES! <~ to this I say, if you didn’t vote you have NO right to complain about the results of the election

his policies are policies for the little guy!!! if u dont understand this, u need to educate ur self. and fast!!!!

If our grandparents sat down the way that we are sitting down, we would still be under Jim Crow laws.

Mike Vick got his check….when u lose ur job, can’t get food stamps, unemployment, or health care…then u will care…I CARE NOW!

Our great grandparents got they ass beat, they were hung and were treated brutally for us to vote, and U don’t care about politics. How?

It’s real out here folks, u better start caring…ignoring the issues don’t make them disappear. <~ amen to that last part

I just want to slap some sense in y’all..our grandparents fought for us…I will not dishonor their legacy by not caring

If u don’t care about politics u don’t care about ur life. U pay taxes..u don’t care where the money goes? <~ I find it sad how so many tax payers have no idea where their money is going nor do they care

I don’t even have kids and I care more about ur kids education than u. That’s sad. <~ the school systems in Atlanta and surrounding areas are forever on the news about SOMETHING

I can only imagine what her mentions looked like while this was taking place

Hours after her rant I saw a tweet that said the official twitter acct. of our POTUS lost 37,000 followers b/c they felt he was “tweeting too much” today <~ smh

I’ll admit that I don’t talk politics with others that often, if at all, but that in NO way says that I’m not aware of what’s going on. I can also admit that I don’t know THAT much about it but I know enough to where if there is a political discussion I’m participating in my input doesn’t sound as if I have no idea what the hell I’m talking about

For half of the time she was doing this I was laughing.  But that’s b/c I know her in real life and I know how she is. She’s ratchet as all hell (and I love that about her) but when she’s passionate about something and feel others need to at least be aware she’ll let you know. This was one of those cases.

On a serious note though, I hope those who saw her tweets/this blog post will understand the importance of at least knowing what’s going on.  You don’t have to be so deep into politics to where that’s ALL you talk about but at least have an understanding of how the government and its policies will directly benefit you and know that if you feel that they don’t, your right to vote is your chance to speak on it.

et cetera